People have strong opinions and if you’re trying to get advice about your job search, other people’s advice can drown your own inner voice. Understandably you want advice if you are looking for a new job. You might not be sure what industry is right for you, and if you should accept a certain job offer. This is why it is important to consider who you go to for advice during this time.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t confide in people - turning to others for help when searching for a new job is a good idea. What’s key, however, is that you are selective about who you confide in, and ensure these people are impartial, rational, and have your best interests at heart.
Here are three types of people you could confide in about your job search:
1. People with nothing to gain
Before you ask anyone for their advice on your job search or any offers, think about whether your decision would impact them in any way. It is for this reason that I would advise you don’t speak to your current colleagues. After all, it only takes one slip of the tongue or one overheard conversation for word to get back to your boss.
Your friends and family might be well placed to give you advice, but remember that they may also have biases which get in the way of your best interests, even if they don’t realise it. For instance – a friend may advise that you join their company, because they like the idea of getting to work with you, or they receive an internal incentive for finding new people. Or if you are thinking of moving overseas – your family may discourage you, because (understandably) they don’t want to see you go.
Who do you know that can be truly neutral in their advice? Is there anyone yousee as a mentor, even if this is in a very informal capacity? Perhaps you used to confide in a former colleague for advice when you worked together, or even a family friend?
You need to make your decisions based on what’s best for you, so before you seek anyone’s advice, ask yourself whether they might have any hidden agendas. And if you still want their input, then take what they say with a pinch of salt.
2. People in a similar situation
Do you know anyone who has been in your shoes, and can therefore give you impartial advice? Think about people who have been in the same job, company or industry. This could include former colleagues, friends and family, and their networks.
You can also find plenty of careers advice by looking at online blogs and forums, using the keywords relating to your situation. And if you can post anonymously, then confide in these networks and ask them your questions about the career decisions you are facing. You will be surprised at how helpful these online communities can be. LinkedIn also has a careers advice functionality where you type in the kind of specialism and sector you are interested in, and they connect you to professionals who can help you.
3. Your recruiter
Last but by no means least, speak to a recruiter. They have first-hand experience placing people in the kinds of roles you want, they know the realities of working in them, and they have to keep your search confidential.
Register with an agency, and meet with an expert recruiter to discuss what kind of roles you are searching for. Remember to provide them with key information on the types of organisations you like the sound of working for, the kind of culture you thrive in, and where you want your next role to take you in your career.
Just make sure you’re talking to the right people, people with experience, credibility and who are impartial. Also remember that no-one knows you better than yourself, and no-one else has to live through your decisions. By all means, seek out good advice and take it on board, but don’t forget to listen to that little voice inside your head telling you what’s right for your career, and no doubt you will make wise and rewarding decisions that pay off long term.
For more information or to discuss your recruitment needs, please contact your local consultant.
About this author
Roddy joined Hays in 1999 as a Recruitment Consultant. In 2012 he took over operational responsibility for Hays in Scotland, managing dedicated teams providing expert temporary and permanent recruitment services for a wide range of sectors and professions. From 2017, he has been the lead for Hays Personal & Executive Assistants business across the UK, providing strategic leadership to over 200 consultants.